An Open Letter To Prop. 8 Propponents In California

I recently saw an article online that indicated that Pro- Prop 8 people were filing an emergency injunction in order to halt gay weddings because the ban on such marriages was lifted early.

Really? After everything you’re really kicking up more dust? The highest court in the land told you Wednesday that this gay marriage issue was none of your business. Essentially, they politely showed you the door. You have lost every legal battle in the life span of this measure. The only time you did win was on election night, but that was only because you lied and filled ignorant people with outlandish scenarios where gay marriage led to beastiality and polygamy. You said our children were in jeopardy because they would be forced to learn about being gay in school. All lies to serve your agenda. To me that was equal to voter fraud. Millions of people cast their votes for a measure that discriminated against a whole sect of people because they thought they were doing something good for their children. They weren’t. They were played by a manipulative political machine with an agenda of hate.

Why do  you even care? I mean, what business is it of yours who marries whom? How do you think you are able to stand over others in judgment and dictate who has the right to be married and who doesn’t? Why can’t you just walk away from this like you should? The right to marry is a fundamental civil right and just because you have a moral objection to It does not mean you have the right to criminalize it. If it offends you, there are 30+ states in the union that still discriminate against gays. Move to one of them. If I were you, I’d head to Utah first. Something tells me that will eventually be the last hold out as the gay rights issue evolves in this country.

The fact is we live in the U.S.A. and as it has been labeled the land of the free, that means everyone here is free to live their lives as they see fit. That was the ideal. Through the years we have fallen short. It seems ever since the we came into being the only people here with true, pure freedom have been straight, white men, but as history has shown, those who don’t fall into that category have fought, and won, their rights and stand shoulder to shoulder with the rest of America. Such it is with the LGBT community.

There are millions of people living here and each person lives their life in a different way. In some cases, those differences clash with others, You may not approve of the way others live their lives here, but you can’t obstruct their right to live it. If you could, how long until you’re on the other side of this fight? What if someone was trying to vote away one of your rights? A lot of people who oppose gay rights never had to fight this battle. They were white and straight and from the day they were born had not obstacles in their way. No one was protesting their choices. Their rights weren’t put on a ballot measure. They never had to hear other people talking as though they were some sub-culture of humanity, so they don’t understand the fight. They don’t get why this is so important, but it is.

You may have a moral objection to who I am by birth, but that does not bestow upon you the right of telling me how to be. There is no partial equality. The laws of our land can sometimes be complex but on principle is steadfast and true. ALL ARE CREATED EQUAL. No asterisk. No exceptions. If you have a problem with a particular group, fine. Hate them all you want, but don’t think for a second you have the grounds to put up laws that carve away their rights, because once you start doing that, everyone’s rights become up for grabs.

Maybe someday we’ll only want families to have two children so any over that will have to be put up for adoption. Maybe we’ll think that interfaith marriages are tearing our society apart. Do you really want to be on this side of history? On the side that insists on dragging us backwards? Because as history has shown, you can fight and drag as much as you want, but eventually we do move forward.



How could I let a historic day like this go by without saying something? Not one, but two major victories for gay marriage. SCOTUS also made history by for first time taking a firm stand on an issue instead of handing down a half hearted decision that merely kicked the issue down the road.

I was so happy to hear about Prop. 8 being overturned. While I am of the opinion that measures approved by voters should be respected, Prop 8 was different. First, it violated civil rights as well as human rights and secondly most of the people who voted for it did so due to the lies and misleading information its supporters were pushing through the media. The people thought they were voting for something that was going to ‘save’ their children, when the measure had nothing to do with kids or schools. That kind of deception, in my view, amounts to voter fraud.

The next best thing was that DOMA was struck down. The base framework of all discrimination against gay and lesbian couples has been ripped apart at long last. This day is setting the stage for even more progress to be made in the future. Deep breath of happiness.

Now the bad news. It seems the opponents of equality don’t seem to understand how deeply they have lost. Already they are talking about what they’re going to do to prevent gay marriage from coming to California. Do these people ever know when to quit? Members of their own camp have even gone on record to say that gay marriage will happen. They know they are on the wrong side of history and will lose, yet they insist on fighting. And I wonder why California has been chosen as such a battleground. I didn’t hear about this much turbulence when New York legalized. Maybe within the state there were some dust ups, but nothing big enough to make the headlines. It just seems the hate groups are particularly interested in preventing gay marriage here, where I would have assumed it would have been accepted as law a long time ago.  Do they think if they can stop gay marriage here that it will stop it everywhere else? As though we were the hive mind? So far, it seems they are losing ground as quickly as we are gaining. With the Supreme Court’s decision today, I think most arguments following will be quickly thrown out, as the highest court in the land has finally deemed any discrimination against gay couples to be unconstitutional.

I have been irritated by this fight since day 1. It frustrates me that a bunch of narrow-minded fools have decided that it’s any of their business how other people live their lives. I’m irritated because we’ve had this fight before over and over and every time the oppressors lose. Are they unable to learn from history or just choose to  ignore it? This country moves forward. This country is built on equality for all and when they say ‘for all’ they mean it. No exceptions.  it’s a shame though that our history doesn’t reflect that. Blacks had to fight for their rights. Women as well. Pretty much every non-white, non-male, non-straight person has had to fight for their basic rights, but on the good side, they have a good track record of winning.

I get that a lot of the opponents of gay marriage oppose it due to their religious beliefs, but that’s even more infuriating. Why should what you believe impact how I live my life? Who the hell said you got to make the rules? The only people affected by gay marriage are the two people being married. This is not a redefinition of marriage. In fact, since the constitution doesn’t specify gender, this is a literal following of our founding fathers’ vision. I would ask all who oppose gay marriage to think about how you would react if your civil rights were suddenly up for a vote. What if your marriage was being put into question? Once we open the door to this, who knows who will be next on the chopping block? Do we really want a country where the majority gets to decide the rights of the minority? Even if you don’t believe in marriage equality, you should believe in justice because some day you’re going to be on the other side of the argument.