Okay, so I’m in a pretty poor mood tonight, so this post could come off as more venting than anything else.
I’m not going to go into what’s bugging me, but suffice it to say that it’s just a general feeling of frustration over the obstinate inertia of my writing career. Same old, same old.
The particular issue I have right now may seem small but it’s a thorn in my brain nonetheless. I was just on my social media site and I saw a story about a major league umpire that has come out as gay. Great! Good for this guy for having the courage to do this. He’s the first openly gay umpire in major league history. Cool. What’s not cool is I found this story through a news site I subscribe to and my local channel 4 affiliate site. Not from The Advocate or Instinct magazine; and I’m pretty sure I know why. The man who came out isn’t pretty. He looks like a regular, everyday kind of guy. A little older. He’s the kind of guy who you’d find on the cover of a sports and leisure magazine. Of course, over in Instinct, they have a whole article about how Dave Franco shows his bare ass in his upcoming movie. Now that’s news, right? An actual historic event or some young hot guy baring all in a movie. Which do we run with? Hmmmm.
It sickens me because this is why so many narrow minded people think gay men are obsessed with sex. Because if you went by our media, that’s exactly how it looks. Some hot guy flashes some flesh and we tear out the front page and drool over it for years. Cute boys in some new TV show, have to cover every inch of whatever flesh they expose too. It’s like some kind of constant eye, stalking the young and hot and reporting for even the slightest titillation. If we were all teenage boys, I’d get it. Hormones and all, but grow the Hell up, please! Some guy’s ass is not news! Everyone’s got an ass. And how sure are we that it’s his in the movie? Heard of a body double? You could be drooling over the wrong guy. (enter sarcastic gasp here) I mean, it’s the ass that’s the thing right? Not the talent of the actor. It’s what they look like.
There are just some days I’m a little over the gay media. I appreciate a handsome guy just like anyone else, but I put my antennae down once in a while. I’m much more interested in acts of bravery, such as the umpire coming out, over eye candy.
I just have grown weary of feeling like a freak just because I don’t stop the minute I see some bare flesh and I’m getting really tired of a media network that seems to only care about a story so long as a hot guy is attached. There are newsmakers out there that aren’t exactly cover model material. That doesn’t mean you should just sweep them aside. I keep hearing a lot of noise about how everyone is beautiful. How about the media follows through with that? Celebrate people even if you don’t want to sleep with them. I realize men, gay or straight, are hardwired for sex, but it looks as though the breeders have got a hold on it and know when and when not to lose their shit over a pretty face and/or a hot body.
I actually think it’s kind of unhealthy. People focus on these celebrities so much, they actually compare real people to them. They get so fixated on this fantasy, they lose sight of what’s real in their lives. They create this unreachable standard of perfection that no one, not even their celebrity crush, could live up to or satisfy. I think it would be nice if we could start appreciating each other for who we are for real rather than falling in love with these fantasies.