Okay. Am I the only one sick of all the phone commercials that use the sentimental music and emotional moments to sell their product? I hate how these companies try to pawn their garbage onto us by trying to manufacture some emotional link with us and their product. It’s a  phone! Just a damn phone. I feel like they are trying to appeal to our sentiment in order to sell us something that ultimately pulls us further apart. While I will admit the features and capabilities of todays phones allow us to communicate in ways that we never dreamt of before, but the way we abuse it seems to be breaking away the last few strands of our society. We settle for a text over a conversation. It’s okay to miss your kids recital now because your wife can Skype it for you or you can watch it later on Youtube. We’re getting to a point where we can literally put off living because we can experience it later online. Alone. The magic of such moments comes from the fact that they are shared experiences and that cannot be duplicated anywhere or anyhow.

I love the new tablets for kids now too. Get your kid glued to that screen now because that’s their destiny. They should learn to start living the digital lifestyle at the earliest age possible. Maybe one day we’ll be able to insert a micro-tablet into the womb. They will be able to record their time inside and have a record of their pre-birth. And the best part of the kid tablets is that they have a feature that will shut it down on them after so much time. That’s great! Now parents don’t have to be torn from their tablets to do their parental duty. The technology will do it for them. Pretty soon you won’t even have to deal with your kid until it’s time to pay for college. It’s no wonder every generation pulls further away from human interaction. We seem to be constantly trying to find new ways to eliminate the human element from every facet of life. Am I the only one who sees the flaw in this? I mean, as humans we need face to face contact. We are a social race. It feels like it has finally happened. All the nerds that got picked on and spent their lives avoiding bullies have grown up and taken over and are creating a society where the technology that was their only friend takes the lead and humans are becoming an expendable element. I’m no technophobe, but I believe we don’t need to be so addicted to it. I also see the irony of saying this in a blog posting, so don’t bother bringing that up. I think my point is  best illustrated in my book ‘Machine’.

It is set in another time where a society’s dependence on technology has driven them underground and they struggle to maintain society. I think that story states my point of view on the whole issue better than anything, and with the growing dominance of technology in our culture, I dare say it is extremely relevant for these times. Check it out. Okay. Commercial over.

Just keep in mind while technology is a blessing, it can be a curse and when they start installing computers in coffins, you know we have gone too far.


Is there anything on this Earth so boring and mundane that they won’t make a reality show out of it? The answer seems to be no. Now I see there’s a show about personal shoppers. Really? Is this a world that really needed to be brought to light? Does anyone friggin’ care about these people who are basically over-paid salespeople for rich folks with overstuffed egos who think their time is too precious to waste doing their own shopping.

And this brings me to wonder why do people watch these shows? Why do you sit down and watch this mind numbing crap about vacuous people who live a standard of living you will never truly know? I’m dirt  poor and frankly watching people living in mansions and doing nothing but bitch about their friends all day while they buy top of the line clothes and cars is the last thing I want to see. These morons have all this money and I, with my brain and intelligence, struggle to keep my food bill for the week below twenty bucks so I can afford gas at the end of the week. The only word that comes to mind is ‘injustice’. I think all those real housewives should be dragged out into the street and shot.  For one thing, how are they ‘real’ housewives? I’ve never seen one of them lift a finger to do a household chore. I don’t see them scrubbing the toilet or doing the laundry. They, like most ‘stars’ of reality shows of this nature, are completely out of touch with what life is like for real  people. They live in this bubble that seems to keep reality out, rather than captures it. And in this they become a small scale example of our society as a whole. The uppers don’t have any concept of what life is like for those of us who live down here in the work a day world.

Okay. I’m going to stop myself now because I feel this going into a big sermon on the rich and government and right now I just don’t have the emotional strength. I just want to implore to you all who read this to stop watching these shows. I know some of you may find them entertaining on some voyeuristic level. Maybe you enjoy watching the bitchy behavior and the fights, but don’t get trapped by that! Be smarter. Demand better. In any other part of the world these people would rightfully be homeless, but here they are glorified for their selfish, stupid behavior.

Cats V. Dogs

The eternal question. Cats or dogs? It’s a personal choice between one person and their God, but  let’s take a look at this issue.</p><p>For the record, I’m a dog and cat person. I’m an animal person. I love the warm loyalty of dogs and the cool enigmatic nature of cats. And both creatures are so damn cute!</p><p>Let’s start with cats. Predominantly looked upon as a feminine animal (owned mostly by girls) cats are independent and sometimes emotionally distant. Unlike dogs, the affection of a cat is usually earned rather than given freely. They are also highly unpredictable as some will leave home for days or weeks at a time and then wander back through the door as if nothing was wrong. Some of these traits can play hell with the owner’s emotions. Many people complain that cats won’t come when you call or they’re aggressive and are  prone to unsolicited attacks, although in my experience I have never encountered this. I grew up in a house where we usually had 3-4 cats at any time. A few I remember being mean and rather unpleasant, most of them were loving and affectionate. A few even did learn their names and came when asked. From the complaints I’ve heard from others about cats, and my experience with them, I can see that this is an issue where the cat only reacts based on the treatment it receives. If you abuse your cat or frighten it,  it’s going to be a problem. It will defend itself from your onslaughts as best it can with the tools it was give. (i.e. claws) but is that a surprise? I mean, if you were abused or mistreated by someone bigger than you, wouldn’t you defend yourself? Don’t you think you’d have a right to protect yourself from bodily harm? Throw in the fact you wouldn’t be able to understand the language of your tormentor. If you have a cat who claws at you or hides from you, examine how you treat it. When properly treated, the love of a cat can be a special and magical thing. There is no greater thrill than when that aloof creature curls up in your lap and starts purring like a race car engine. Yes, the cat makes you work for it, but when you get there and win the animals trust and affection, it’s a great feeling and you’ve earned a friend for life.

Others complain that cats don’t contribute or are aloof. What the hell do you expect a pet to contribute? There are watchdogs, granted, but the dogs I’ve known are more fierce with their barking than their actions. Cats are hunters and they can eliminate any intruders of the rodent variety you may have. If you don’t have any though, that’s good and maybe you should give the cat a break. For all you know, you did have mice, but the cat settled the issue before you even knew about it. The unsung hero.

I’d also like to address the issue of people who just hate cats. My first question would be ‘why?’ What did this animal do to you to incur your wrath? As I write this, I get the feeling I spoke about this in a previous blog, so I apologize for the redundancy, but it really ticks me off when I hear someone say that they hate an animal. Animals are innocent, malice free creatures with no agenda or ulterior motives. They live by instinct and seek only to live. They aren’t out to foil you or destroy your life. If you have a shitty life, blame the person you see in the mirror, because that’s who is really responsible. Another nugget to think on, the way you treat an animal, of any kind, says more about the kind of person you are at your core.

Okay. Dogs. Let’s talk about dogs. Loyal and cheerful. Always jumping up with excitement when you walk in the door. It’s little wonder they’ve been dubbed ‘man’s best friend’. They are cute and fun and actually make great activity partners. I’m more into medium to big dogs. Labs, retrievers, like that. The little dogs are great too, though. Shih Tzu’s are irresistible. Dogs definitely fill a void if you don’t have children because they are almost as dependent on you as an infant. My friends who  have dogs speak of them as tho they were their children and they act in kind. They buy them toys and little outfits and accessories. They’ve even put them through (obedience)school. I can see that the dogs are serving to fill a part of their lives that may have been lacking before. We all need someone or something to focus our attention on and care for. Some choose their job or a significant other, but I think the real top two choices for this are children and then pets. Dogs fit the bill better than most because of their child-like temperament. My parents’ lab always wants to go out and play in the backyard. ALWAYS.

Now while I love dogs and all their charms, there are less charming things about them. For one, I am not a big fan of the dependent nature. I mean, I can deal, but there are days I just want to be left alone and I don’t want them jumping all over me. I’m also not so craze about when they get super amped and they won’t leave you alone until the get what they want. I don’t respond to tantrums in any form. I also hate the clean up. Cats are at least very clean and you don’t have to deal with much in that department. I spent over ten years cleaning up after an endless parade of dogs when I was growing up and I saw things that haunt me to this day. The sights. The smells. Oh. The smells. <shiver> I also didn’t much like bathing them either. You had to struggle to get them in the tub and then after you managed that, you had to touch places that you would rather not touch ever. I tried to call dibs on the front end as much as possible, but when you get stuck scrubbing the hind quarters, dog ownership isn’t quite as fun.

So, I guess in the final analysis, dogs and cats are cool depending on your needs and likes, but I would like to remind all that both are living creatures that feel emotionally and physically. If one animal isn’t you ‘thing’ that’s fine, but don’t go out of your way to do harm to one or the other. If you don’t like them, fine, but there’s no reason to punish them for the sin of being what they are. Just try and put yourself in their paws. See the world from their eyes, and remember that you have the ability to speak. Imagine if you were  unable to speak to the outside world. You wouldn’t know how to tell someone you’re hurt or to plead for mercy. All living things deserve respect and dignity and If you can’t extend that to the lowliest of creatures, don’t expect it from others yourself.

Pet Peeves 1

Having done my time in the single scene in the past, I have a few irksome issues to vent  off about.

First, I hate profiles that require anyone who responds to ‘take care of their body’. It annoys me because it feels like a mean slam at those of us who aren’t gifted physically. Just because I don’t have six pack abs or pecs of steel doesn’t mean I don’t take care of myself. I exercise. I eat a balanced diet. Some people have body types and other issues that hinder their quest for a more ripped appearance. in my case, my body type holds onto fat and makes it difficult to lose it even with proper exercise and diet. Oh, to be a Mesomorph for a day.

I’m also quite fed up with gay men trying to turn Friends With Benefits into a relationship distinction. FWB is not a relationship status. It’s just a phrase used by men to validate sleeping around but at the same time keeping them out of the relationship sphere. You like the guy. You want to sleep with him, but you’re not totally sure you want to wake up to his face for the rest of your life. Throw FWB onto it and have a ball, right? I’m sorry. If you want to screw around like a frat boy, fine but don’t hang a cut name onto it and act like it’s a  new way of life. I mean, what’s the point of a relationship if you can’t value it? Leaving that door open to come in and out as you please minimizes the relationship and both parties are doomed to feel unsatisfied and eventually part ways.  I’m all for living and experiencing all you can, but at some point we want something more. At least most of us do. For me, I want someone to grow old with. Here’s a sobering thought. When you’re at Target or some other store, look around at the old couples wandering the aisles. Then realize that someday that’s going to be you. I promise. That is where all roads lead. As exciting and thrilling as your life may be now, at some point you’re going to  be one of those rumpled old folks pushing a cart down t he grocery aisle at Wal-Mart looking for the item you have a coupon for. You can’t stop it. It’s going to happen. I’d rather have someone with me at that stage of my life.


Now that I’m without a net (Thanks a heap state of CA. YOU SUCK EDD!!!) I am in need of a source of income ASAP. So I need to accomplish in the immediate future what I haven’t been able to over the past year. Find a job. People have said the market has been improving, but I’m not seeing it. I have a college degree and a lot of experience with a lot of different skills, but despite all that, there just aren’t that many jobs available. Every day I check the boards and find nothing. What few jobs I find that are within my scope, I send out my application/resume but days drag by and every day that phone doesn’t ring, I get closer to a totally uncertain future. I’m just at that point where I don’t know what to do. I feel like tearing my hair out sometimes. I feel like my hands are tied and my whole world is on shaky ground. I need work and I need it now. I don’t have time to wait any longer. I know I’m not the only one in this boat, but just the same. Sometimes I can’t believe this is happening. I feel like my life is coming apart at the seams. It puts a lot more  pressure on the success of my upcoming book. I’m reminded that the book is coming out in November and that’s great, but what am I going to do between now and then? What if it flops? I mean, I hope it doesn’t, but it’s a possibility. And even if it’s a smash hit(Hoping) that doesn’t do any good to me now. I can’t pay my rent with future earnings. I’ve even started to sell stuff on Etsy. I make earrings. A friend of mine sells his stuff on Etsy and he does great. I don’t try to do it on the scale he does it, I just need a little extra income. Maybe if I do well with it I might expand, but that’s too far away to worry about now.

I just go to bed every night with all this stress, but despite that, I try to convince myself that the next day will be better, but so far I have been wrong. It just keeps getting worse and worse. I don’t know how much more of this I can take. I think the worst of it is how much I hate feeling like I can’t support myself or manage my own life. I feel like less of a man, to be honest. I hate everything about this situation I’m in. And I hate the fact that I can’t really do anything to change it. All I can do is work through it and keep pushing forward. But for how much longer?


My Etsy shop

Well, since I’ve been discarded from the eyes of the government, I have had to think outside the box to make any money. I’m surprised I didn’t think of this months ago, but I guess stress is truly the mother of invention. I have decided to try selling things on Etsy. I wasn’t sure what to do. I needed something I could afford to make, as well as something I could actually make, and sell. I finally decided  upon earrings. I intended to find something more unisex, but I found these lovely little flowers online and I had to do it. They look even better in your hands, or on your ears. 

Please check out my shop and my earrings. If they aren’t for you, then maybe you could send the link over to someone who you think would enjoy these handmade gifts. At this point, it’s practically charity. I have some other ideas of things to sell, but I’m working all that out as I go. So now not only do I need to worry about marketing my books, I have my Etsy store to go along with it. Whew! Busy year.


For LA Drivers

This  post is targeted at drivers. Particularly drivers in Los Angeles.

Yesterday I was stuck in a bit of a jam on the freeway. The lane I was in started on the 405 south but emptied out on the 101 north. It’s one lane and it was  backed up and it wasn’t the first time. Traffic on the 101 wasn’t that bad. The reason for the back up? Motorists who seemed to be under the impression that they were more important than anyone else on the planet.  Cars in the next lane were pushing their way into my lane because they didn’t want to wait at the beginning of the line. They felt the basic rule of ‘no cuts’ did not apply to freeway traffic. The reason that lane got so backed up was because the cars shoving their way into the lane forced the cars already in the lane to stop and hold up traffic. Multiply that several times over with an endless number of cars doing the same thing. Does it ever occur to anyone if you just follow the flow of traffic and just wait your damn turn, we’ll all get to where we’re going? It’s not a race. There’s no prize for getting to wherever you’re going first. If you cut into a backed up lane, you’re still going to have to wait. 

This kind of inconsiderate behavior spreads like a virus and infects every part of life. If someone drives like a jerk, odds are they’re a jerk outside the car too. It just seems like it’s a perfect example of what’s wrong with humans. We’re all more concerned with ourselves and where we’re going.  There are times in life when working with the community is the best course of action. I’m not saying you should be totally concerned about everyone in the world all the time, but maybe once in a while you could acknowledge the fact that you aren’t the center of the universe and that you share this world with the rest of us.

I know this won’t fix the problem. If we haven’t figured out a way to make the traffic better here by now, I don’t think we ever will. Maybe though, someone out there will change their driving habits and be one of those out there who actually makes things easier in their own way.

Let’s hope.